Every family is different. Our Heavenly Father created all of us to be different for a purpose. Diversity is part of His plan. It's easy to look at other families and to assume that they have it all together, when it reality, that's not the case. What works for one family, will not work for every family. It's so important for you to take the time to discover what works for your family and to mold your Family Home Evenings to work for you.
Here are a couple of tips and tricks to help you and your family create the perfect FHE for you.
1. You don't have to have FHE on Monday.
Growing up, our Dad traveled Monday-Friday every week. During this time our family chose to have FHE on Sunday nights because that worked for our family. Having FHE on Sunday didn't take anything away from our Family Home Evenings and it was what worked for our family. If Monday's don't work for you, choose another night. Family night is the night you choose. Make it work for your family. It doesn't matter when you have Family Home Evening, it only matters that you have it.
2. Don't have expectations.
This can be very difficult. Of course after spending time preparing a lesson and activity, you want it to go perfectly. But reality does not often allow for perfection and so there's a good chance that your lesson may not go as planned. Children have very short attention spans and you may have to rush through a lesson to keep them entertained. A fast lesson does not equal failure. The fact that you are attempting Family Home Evening with kids is a HUGE success in itself! Don't set expectations for your Family Home Evening. Plan ahead, but understand that what happens happens and regardless your family and children will feel that love you have for them simply by having Family Home Evening.
3. Use props!
Kids love props! Puppets, colored cutouts, toys, anything that you can find to incorporate into your lesson that will draw your children's attention will help! Bribes never hurt either... I frequently color pictures that correlate with my lesson before hand, and have my kids help me during the lesson by holding the pictures for me. We spend time looking at the pictures and show each other what we see. Maybe this doesn't directly correspond to the lesson, but it's still doing something together as a family, and that's all that matters. Family Home Evening is about spending time together as a family.
4. Plan ahead.
Take a minute or two out of your day to plan ahead. Children know when you are flying by the seat of your pants and they tend to take advantage of that. Know your lesson and know your material. This will help lead to a smoother lesson and a positive outlook about Family Home Evening for both the adults of the family and the other family members as well.